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Over the years, I have been regularly asked a number of questions which often apply to anyone going through or contemplating a separation or divorce, so I thought it might be useful if I summarised them here for you...
What is a Divorce & Breakup Coach?
A Divorce & Breakup Coach is your personal go-to person, there to guide you through the process from start to finish. They have expertise in divorce, conflict resolution and separated parenting. They also have access to a wealth of legal, financial and parenting resources to help you make sensible decisions about your children, property and finances.
How much does a divorce cost?
A divorce can cost anywhere from about £600 to over £10,000, depending on whether it's uncontested or requires court involvement. The core costs include a £612 court fee for the divorce application, and then solicitor fees, which can range from approximately £600-£1,800 for a straightforward online divorce to £10,000-£15,000 or more if legal representation is needed for a contested court case.
Who should stay in the house during a separation?
When a couple separates, who stays in the house depends on whether they are married/in a civil partnership or not, as well as other factors like children or property ownership. For married couples, both have "home rights" to the property, even if one of their names is not on the mortgage, and neither can be forced to leave without a court order, so it often comes down to negotiation or a court decision. For unmarried couples, the situation is different: the person whose name is on the deeds or tenancy agreement is the one with the legal right to stay, unless the other person has a financial stake in the property or a court has ordered otherwise.
Why is moving out the biggest mistake in a divorce?
Moving out during a divorce can be a mistake because it can negatively impact child custody arrangements, property rights and finances. It can also make it harder to secure primary custody by suggesting you are not the primary caregiver, complicate property division by you appearing uninterested in the marital home, and create a dual-household financial burden. It is always best to seek professional advice before moving out to understand the implications.
What is the "72-hour rule" for breakups?
The "72-hour rule" for breakups is a guideline to allow time for the initial shock to wear off before making impulsive decisions or re-engaging. It suggests waiting three days to see if the strong emotions and desire to contact your ex persist, or if you still feel the same level of hurt or urgency to separate. The rule encourages self-reflection and allows your brain to begin processing the situation more calmly.
How are you different from Mediation?
We’re more comprehensive than mediation because we are trained in helping you to navigate the emotional journey of divorce and separation.
Are you Regulated?
I don’t give legal advice and I'm not a lawyer, so my services aren't regulated like traditional law firms. However, I do have to stick to consumer law, and the Competition & Markets Authority has the power to make sure I comply with all relevant legal requirements. In fact, I always try to be better than that and want you to be so happy with my service that you recommend me to other people!
What is the cheapest way to get divorced?
The cheapest way to get a divorce in the UK is to do it yourself ("DIY divorce"), as this only involves paying the court fee, which is currently £612, and you don't have to pay legal fees. You can also get a discount on the court fee if you are on a low income. For complex financial and property matters, mediation is often a cheaper alternative to court, although it is always recommended to get legal advice to draft a legally binding agreement.
What is the '7 Year Rule' in divorce?
Contrary to popular belief, there is no provision in law for an automatic divorce after separation for a specific period, such as 7 years. Divorce proceedings must be started to obtain a divorce. You do not need to be separated for a minimum period before you can start divorce proceedings in England and Wales.
What shouldn't I do when I separate?
Don't rush and make emotional decisions, turn down opportunities to spend time with your children, say bad things about your partner/spouse, take on more debt, hide income and assets, get a new boyfriend or girlfriend, or say anything on social media about your situation.
How do I agree on splitting our money and property?
I offer coaching sessions where I help you reach an agreement with your ex. You can also use Mediation to reach an agreement. However, you will need to go to a solicitor to get your agreement made legally binding. I can help you with this too.